February 06, 2007
I've really kept things bottled up over the past nine months about the sudden disappearance of a couple I considered to be good friends. We accepted them as they were and spent many a weekend at their house socializing. The only reason they never came to our apartment was because one of them had a major cat allergy. We would always have fun playing games and chatting. A visit always involved food, and would always contribute as much as possible to the gathering. We even spent several weekends during spring break last year helping them move from one house to another. At one point last June, the couple attended a conference in Germany. We made plans to get together once they returned, but for weeks we never heard from them. E-mails went unanswered, as did phone calls. We basically gave up wondering what the hell happened.
About a month later, Erika saw a member of the couple on campus and plans were made to get together and catch up. That was basically the end of any communication from them. We called and left messages about meeting them, but none of them were returned. Greetings on campus were met with scowls and slamming of doors. To this day, we have no clue why they stopped talking to us. We extended the hand of friendship and got slapped in the face. I doubt we will ever know what happened there despite our attempts. What ticks me off the most is they kept one of our board games. Neither of us has gotten the gumption to ask for it back. Honestly, I don't know what they'd do to it before giving it back even if they acknowledged the request.
Thinking that to be a unique occurrence, I was quite surprised when a very similar event happened today, only this time it was of the virtual variety. Today my friend count on Myspace dropped by 2. I probably wouldn't have even noticed for a few weeks unless Erika hadn't asked me about my friend list. Turns out two of her [what she thought were] good friends decided to delete both of us as friends. Personally I don't care as I had met them once, but Erika had connected with them pretty strongly and I guessed I would get to know them in due time. After Thanksgiving, this friendship started sliding. Erika had spent Thanksgiving with one of them and hung out with the both of them over the holidays. After returning, she realized that the person she had stayed with for a few days suddenly dropped Erika out of her top friends list. I know that sounds really petty, but it was a concern especially since Erika had bonded with this person, so she thought. The questions went out asking if something was wrong, especially since their was a bad vibe before she left. She was assured nothing was wrong. But, over the past two months, both of these friends have been strangely quiet. Then today, out of the blue, the delete button was pressed. Obviously something had been wrong for months. But rather than be an adult and talk out the problem, both of them hid behind their little Myspace pics like pansies.
Both of these ordeals just make me want to scream. I don't understand why people don't have the courage to step up. If something was said to hurt your feelings then tell me. Chances are it was a misunderstanding and I'll try to smooth things out. Even if it wasn't a misunderstanding, letting me know why you are mad and not speaking is the more mature thing to do.
In the case of the second scenario, even though I wasn't really friends with either of them, the least they could do is tell Erika why they suddenly lost interest in a friendship. But knowing what I do, I'm certainly not surprised at either of them in terms of maturity level. Delete me, never speak to me again, I don't care. But at the very least, you owe Erika an explanation. Do you have what it takes to write a simple e-mail or message to say here's what went wrong? I doubt that you do. Myspace is your friend. You can sit here all day long hiding in your little world not caring about any one but yourself.
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